WARNING: Facebook Has Gone Cuckoo!

August 21, 2008

About a month ago I hit the 5,000 friends plateau on Facebook, which means I can’t add or accept anymore requests for friends. Occasionally someone will drop out of my network for whatever reason.

When that occurs I accept some of the requests setting in my inbox… which could be 8 – 10 per day. But, mind you, I have over 70 waiting in the que. So over the last couple of hours I got this ‘brilliant’ idea…

“Why not click on the ‘send message’ link next to the person’s name and invite them to join my FB Fan Page to connect with me, since I’m maxed out with Friends?”

I was offering them the opportunity to network with me at my Facebook Fan Page at http://facebook.dj/smmnetwork

Made a lot of sense to me!

After I sent out about six of these ‘brilliant’ invitations I got the WARNING from FB that if I continued to send those message I would risk having my account shut down for spamming.

Needless to say, I was shocked! People are requesting to connect with me. Facebook is saying I can’t have anymore friends. I offer them an alternative. Facebook says, “I dare you to keep sending those ‘brilliant’ messages!”

Can someone help me out here? What’s wrong with this picture. I know I’ve been a little stressed out recently and maybe my gray matter is a little foggy and I can’t think straight.

What are your thoughts on FB’s response? Thoughts please. 🙂



Testing the Ping Blog Posting Service

August 9, 2008

Assuming this process works, this will make posting my short, top-of-the-head blogs a snap to post. There have been many times I wanted to post an idea or thought but didn’t want to go through the lengthy process of a normal post.

So, let’s see how this works.


Follow-up to: Using Social Networking for a Worthy Cause

August 1, 2008

A huge thank you goes out to all of you that have reached out to Monikah and Sarah by responding to my blog post from a few days ago. Many of you have left very kind and encouraging words that have been a real boost them.

Through the process of concerned and interested folks contacting Monikah and me, about how else can they participate if they don’t have $97 to purchase the “fire sale” package. Many wanted to know if they could possibly donate a smaller amount of money. And if so, how could they make a donation.

One person in particular, Reggie Baker, sent me this message:

“I have just talked to paypal and they are sending me an email with instructions on how to set up a donation button to Monikah. There are probably many that won’t or can’t buy Monikah’s course for $97.00 — altho it is a SERIOUS value. When i sort how to set the button up I will be in touch about how to advertise it.” Reggie Baker (inthistogether)

This helped to explain why after several hundred unique visitors had come to the page, less than 10 sales had been made so far. Those sales are very much appreciated.

During my conversation with Monikah on Thursday she was really struggling with accepting straight donations. She was very concerned about accepting help from others without them receiving something back in return.

That is a real and valid concern. I can appreciate her not wanting to develop a reputation as a ‘taker.’

But I explained to her that it is a myth that you can give without getting something back. When a person gives to someone in need there is a big gain on the part of the giver, even if there is no equal physical exchange transacted.

When decent people help others who are in need, they are supercharged with energy generated by the power of making a difference.

I can remember my years of living in the Midwest and terrible floods would hit certain areas, threatening people’s lives. Folks from all over would come to help secure those people’s homes and property while getting nothing back in return.

In fact, they would risk their own lives to help others. But at the same time, inside they felt like a million dollars – because they made a difference.

So, after sharing that story with Monikah she agreed that if there are people who want to help the cause by making donation, she would make that opportunity available.

So, she now has a way for anyone who wants to participate, to do so as there means allows them. Here’s how: http://tinyurl.com/getwellsarah

Thank each of you for participating and caring.

Social Networking ROCKS!


Using Social Networking for a Worthy Cause

July 30, 2008

One of the key success factors in Social Networking is that you build personal relationships with the folks you meet along the way. Granted, you won’t get to know everyone to the same degree.

But, there are some whom you are destined to develop a deeper relationship. It’s not always known why things work out that way. Which brings me to what I want to share with you right now.

A dear friend and fellow social networker, Monikah Ogando, is faced with what I call a “real life” situation. Her 11 year old daughter, Sarah, has been stricken with a lymphatic disease and a enlarged spleen.

In order for the doctors to properly treat little Sarah’s disease they need to run a battery of diagnostic tests to get to the root cause. Being a home based business owner and solo-entrepreneur, Monikah’s medical insurance is not quite up to the task because she’s reached the limits of her coverage.

In order for the doctor’s to perform the next series of diagnostic checks, Monikah needs to walk into their offices with CASH to cover the bill – or they’re not going to do the tests.

Can you imagine that?

Interestingly enough, I planted the seed for Monikah to share her situation with me during a Twitter conversation we were having this past Sunday evening – I asked her, “what was the biggest thing she had on her plate right now?” And she responded by asking me if we could take the discussion offline and SKYPE each other.

During our 1-hour chat session she shared with me what was going on with her daughter’s health. I proceeded to ask her how was she going to deal with her challenge, since she’s the one that close family members tend to lean on during hard-times… and now she’s the one that needs a helping hand.

That’s when she started to tell me about the “fire sale” she was planning to launch. Monikah is a highly successful business coach and info product marketer, with eight years of experience. Along with a lot of info products, she also has a group coaching/private membership site that she runs.

The “fire sale” Monikah is offering gives you access to all of her business building resources that she’s developed over the last eight years, at a price that is approximately 70% off the normal selling price.

Her system is called, “Jumpstart Your Business in 30 Days.” Here’s the link to her site. www.JumpStartYourBizin30.com

Before we go any further I feel a strong need to inform you that I get nothing out of this promotion, other than the satisfaction of helping out a dear friend who has a serious need and a little girl that has a very bright future.

Monikah, out of the kindness of her heart, asked me if I wanted an affiliate link to compensate me for referring her services to my social networking friends. I flat out declined her offer!

There was no way I could look at myself in the mirror, if on one hand I’m trying to help her and with the other hand I’m taking from her. Those are conflicting morals and personal values.

So, I’m asking you, trusted friends and colleagues, to take a look at what Monikah has to offer and if you find value and relevance to what you do, make a purchase.

I’m confident that Monikah will use the funds to help secure the well-being of little Sarah.

A few of Monikah’s social networking friends have stepped forward to help promote Monikah’s “fire sale,” many of which you might know. They include Nancy Perez, Alejandro Reyes (AKA-Successfool), and Ron Hudson . Others are coming onboard daily.

I thought it was appropriate to show you a picture of Monikah and Sarah together. It’s always good to be able to look into the eyes of a person. See the photo and video are posted below. The video will show you that Sarah is one smart cookie and undoubtedly has a very bright future in store for her.

Take a look…

I would like to thank you in advance for allowing me to share this human interest story with you and I’m looking forward to coming back to you later with a follow-up on how Sarah is progressing.

My Sincere Regards,

Jim Turner

Why Twitter is My Social Networking Secret Weapon…

July 13, 2008

Back in March when I first heard about Twitter, you wouldn’t have been able to convince me that one day I’d be blogging on the value added by using Twitter.

Initially, I saw it as another way to waste away my day and to be a major distraction, preventing me from getting the things done that I really needed to get done.

But over time, Twitter has become a critical tool in my Social Networking efforts. Yes, it experiences service outages (quite frequently, might I add), but those incidences have not hindered the ROI that I’m getting from the time invested in using Twitter… because I don’t use Twitter as an IM service.

Here are some ways that Twitter has benefitted me over the last few months:

Met and interacted with other like-minded people – some of my best online friends are folks that I communicate with frequently on Twitter. Let me rephrase that statement – ALL of my BEST online friends are people that I interact with on Twitter. Many of these friendships started with a simple Twitter conversation that was eventually taken off-line for a deeper level of conversation and relationship building.

Found resources that helped me solve a technical computer-related problem – after sending out a desperate tweet asking for help with an email problem, several people in my network responded with links to Outlook help forums and with personal advice on how to solve my problem. They saved me tons of time in searching and reading articles.

Located several Squidoo experts by blasting a tweet to my network asking “whom they would  recommend as a lens developer.”

This is just a sampling of how using Twitter has help me. While writing this blog, I started a conversation with fellow tweeter, Kristen Beireis, AKA life_enthusiast and she said to mention that you can increase your cash flow with Twitter.

I couldn’t agree more, because I’ve found and built relationships with several new business partners – now working on two new JV projects with fellow Twitterbuds and have over the last few months developed long-term relationships with a couple of new copywriting clients.

Bottom line: Twitter can be whatever you decide to make it… a business builder or a time waster. Quite frankly, I only spend between 20 and 30 mins/day actively using twitter. Although I have it “live” most of the time, depending on the type of work that I’m doing.

Right now, I have 931 people who follow my tweets and I follow just over 1,200. These are highly targeted people, with whom I have lot in common. In fact, many of them are connected with me as a Facebook Friend… or on my Facebook Fan Page… or as part of my Facebook Social Media Marketing Mastermind Group.

Of all the Social Networking tools and apps that I use, Twitter is my Secret Weapon. My goal is to someday, have ALL of my contacts in my Twitter network. And here’s why…

The one big advantage I have when using Twitter is that I can instantly message each of my Followers, not with a SPAM sandwich, but to let them know about things that I’m involved in that they can benefit from, such as, a new blog post, a new Social Networking tip that I’ve recently learned, links to helpful resources, announcements about Social Networking interviews and events that I’m participating in or along with other experts.

In marketing terminology this is called Branding. Twitter is a great tool for helping you to become a recognized expert in your niche. And when people have a need for what you have to offer – guess who they’re going to come to for help – YOU!

If you’d like to become a recognized expert in your niche and have access to real-time Social Networking information, then let’s connect now. Follow my tweets for a while and see how I use Twitter. Also, connect with a lot of the people in my tweet network and see what they’re doing.

Yep, I’m now a Twitter or micro-blogging Evangelist. I’m no longer a “Twitter Hater.”

Let’s Tweet!

Jim Turner

P.S. If you’re already using Twitter, let me know about the success stories you’re experiencing by leaving a comment below.

P.S.S There are other micro-blogging apps available – Plurk, Pownce, Tumblr and most recently, Identi.ca. I have accounts in some of these, but I’m sticking with Twitter because I’ve spent too much time and effort building my current network.

A Couple of Facebook Myths

June 26, 2008

Occasionally some of my good LinkedIn friends will speak about how Facebook is too informal for them, PLUS it’s full of pimply-faced teeny boppers.

Many of them say they will never set up a Facebook account because it’s just not “professional” enough for their taste.

Of course, I make it a point to help them understand that a lot of what they’re thinking are nothing more than myths and non-factual beliefs they have regarding Facebook.

I’m not much of a off-the-cuff debater. I like to dig up the facts and use them for persuasive purposes. So, I went on a fact-finding mission for info that could help support my argument. It turns out I really didn’t have to go very far to find my answers.

It turns out that when you have a Facebook Fan Page, you’re provided with a few demographic insight regarding your Fan Page membership. With this info in mind, I went to check stats at my Social Media Marketing Network Fan Page.

Here’s what I found;

Total Members – 1,520

Gender: Males – 60% (912); Female – 40% (608)

Age Range




13 – 17




18 – 24

2% (30)

4% (61)

6% (91)

25 – 34

9% (137)

14% (213)

23% (350)

35 – 44

14% (213)

20% (304)

34% (517)


16% (243)

22% (334)

37% (577)


Well, well, well… the proofs in the pudding, as they say. I’m not sure what the overall demographics of Facebook looks like. But I can affirmatively say that the members on my Fan Page don’t fit some of the common myths around Facebook.

Here’s my most surprising discovery: The largest segment of my Fan Page membership is age 45+ at 37%. And the next biggest group, age 35 – 44, comprises 34% of my group.

Supposedly, a huge portion of Facebook members is in the 18 – 24 age bracket. I wonder why I don’t have only 91 from that group. Maybe they’re like my 19yo daughter and just don’t want to be connected to the “older crowd.” LOL  But that’s OK. J

Now, the other surprising discovery is that there are far more men (912) in the group than there are women (608). I thought women were more ‘social-natured’ than us men. Where are the women???

What’s the deal – is it my cologne or what? Most likely not. It could be because there simply are more men doing business online than women.

What are your thoughts on why the data is what it is regarding my Social Media Marketing Network Fan Page  – (1) teeny boppers are vast minority and (2) males significantly outnumber females.



How Many Facebook Friends are Enough?

June 21, 2008

A couple of days ago, I crossed the 4,000 “friend” watermark on my Facebook profile. I casually mentioned this in a recent update to my Social Media Marketing Network Fan Page members. This sparked a question from my Social Networking friend, Warren Whitlock regarding large social networks vs. smaller ones.

Below is the conversation we started with each other, which we later decided we should take it public and let others chime in. So, here’s the conversation:

————— Conversation begins ———————

Hi Jim

Congratulations on reaching that milestone.

Have you found that having more friends that you don’t know has helped in your promotions?

Are you able to reach out to them as a group? Individually?

I’m looking for best practices to teach busy professionals, and services and training to recommend. Seems a lot of the training is focused on a race to big numbers, not profits.

Your thoughts?



Hi Warren,

A lot of your approach to community/network building depends upon your game plan. For example, McDonalds is a mass marketer. They’d like for every pair of lips on earth to engulf a Big Mac everyday.

Some of your more niche restaurants may not have that goal. Maybe they’re looking for people who want to dine for the prestige of having dined at their restaurant and are willing to pay 300 bucks for dinner for 2 people.

Getting back to online marketing – it just makes sense to me that you’d want to service as many folks as possible because the tools are there to do it. So you pull the more interested ones together in a FB group or Fan page and you message them with quality content at a reasonable frequency… all along you’re establishing your brand. And when the folks in the group need help they come to you or you can service them proactively by producing info products for them to buy.

I’ll be blogging more on these different marketing approaches real soon.



Hi Jim,

Here’s 2 cents more…

Group of fans are NOT FB friends.

McDonalds wants to reach billions, but they don’t phone each one.

I think there are a lot of people building friends list just for the sake of increasing their counts. A zillion on a fan page or group is just fine, but do they all have to be friends?

I see the same thing on LinkedIN. Every new employee at Pierpoint Recruiting is told to go get a buck of “connected people” and so I get invites.

I’m an open networker, I don’t mind from that perspective.. but I have to ask.. is it really possible that a JR recruiter will develop a real relationship with me? Even if I meet them and like them (maybe we went to the same school), there is no chance that I will employee people, tell others to take a job.. in fact, I bash employment every chance I get.

My point is.. it’s okay to get 1,000,000 friends if you can handle it, but I question whether these people have any intention of doing anything other than “getting the count”


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Now it’s your turn… what are your thoughts… large vs. small friend network… why and why not. Please comment below.

Thanks in advance.

Jim Turner